Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Daughters of Khadijah-First Post

Muslim women: you are the daughters of Khadijah, the sisters of Fatima. You are to be as Aisha was: when you look out onto the world, you are not alone. It is the duty and the pride of every Muslim out there, to want to help and to protect you. We don't want you to think that Allah (SWT) is the only one out there who hears your cries. This blog is a start. It gives us a foundation to build from, to pool our resources, and address a problem.

This blog is for you, any woman who finds herself needing a place to go (maybe because, like myself and many, you have come to Islam and your own family won't accept you anymore because of the hijab you have chosen so bravely to wear), or maybe because the man you are married to is not a man at all but a beast, and the worst of men. Prophet Mohamed (SAW) himself said "The best of men are those who are best to their women" so I can only surmise that men that are the worst to women are the worst of mankind.

Of the new muslims: "O Prophet! When believing women come to you to ascribe their faith and attend their loyalty that they will not associate partners with God, and will neither steal nor commit adultery nor kill their children, nor produce a lie which they have thought up themselves, and will not disobey you in what is right, then accept them to you and ask Allah to forgive them. Lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful." [Surah al-Mumahanah:12]
And for the believing woman who seeks refuge: "O you who believe! when believing women come to you as refugees, test them; Allah knows best their faith; then if you find them to be believing women, do not send them back to the unbelievers, neither are these (women) lawful for them, nor are those (men) lawful for them, and give them what they have spent; and no blame attaches to you in marrying them when you give them their dowries;"... "That is Allah's judgment; He judges between you, and Allah is Knowing, Wise."

My goal is to start a fund for sisters who need support in order to be safe and to flourish in Islam, and maybe have a house somewhere we can stay together under the protection of a willing Imam, and means to get there. To have this be forum from which they can get aid. A forum from which we can ask our Imams to speak to our brothers about following the true sunnah of Prophet Mohammed (SAW) and encourage brothers to marry lawfully divorced women with children in order to protect and support them, as the Prophet has done, so that there will be no reason for women to stay where they are beaten and abused.

"A mother shall not be allowed to suffer on account of her child" surah 2:233
"Reasonable provision shall also be made for divorced women. That is incumbent on righteous men." surah 2:241

"wives... either retain them in honor or let them go in kindness. But you shall not retain them in order to harm them or to wrong them. Whoever does this wrongs his own soul." surah 2:230

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: THIS IS NOT ALLOWED IN ISLAM! ANY COWARDS OUT THERE WHO WANT TO USE SURAH 4:34 (it says: "Men are the maintainers of women") AS AN EXCUSE TO BRUTALISE AND BATTER A WOMAN GIVE ME YOUR NAME AND I WILL GET YOU A MAN YOUR OWN SIZE---OR I'LL GET MYSELF A FRYING PAN AND GO AFTER YOU MYSELF! (And I've done it before for a non-muslim friend and I'd do more for a sister so watch out!) .

Muslims, you and I know Islam is a religion of peace, frying pans aside, and as muslim women we know this is one of the biggest stereo-types out there that we have to fight: suppression. We can fight it by fighting abusers out there, and protecting those who deserve it, the orphans and women.

"Give orphans the property which belongs to them. Do not exchange their valuables for worthless things or cheat them of their pocessions; for this would surely be a grievous sin. If you fear you cannot treat orphans with fairness, then you may marry the women who seem good to you: two, three, or four of them. But if you fear you cannot maintain equality among them, marry only one... This will make it easier to avoid injustice."
"They consult you concerning women. Say: 'Allah has instructed you about them, and so have verses proclaimed to you in the Book, concerning the orphan girls whom you deny their legal rights and refuse to marry; also regarding helpless children. He has instructed you to deal justly with orphans. Allah has knowledge of all the good you do." Surah 4:126


We need our Imams to help us by being Walis for these new muslim converts/reverts, and providing them with housing, food, and education, when circumstances require it (for they are our orphans today), and to help find good brothers willing to follow the Prophet's example to love and marry abandoned or lawfully divorced women with children, who will love those children as their own. This is the goal of Daughters of Khadijah---we must all speak to our Imams about this. We must all seek out these brothers. Sisters, we are here for you, and we will help any way that we can.

You can email me anytime at xalixiannax@hotmail.com and I and others will do everything in our power to keep you safe and strong in Iman, walahi, I swear it.

-Alixianna and others

12 comments:

Bro Yusuf said...

Mashallaah! This is great May Allaah swt reward you and make these matters easy for you!ameen.

MushuThaLohari said...

Nice entry, masha Allah! I pray for this project to work and hope many fellow muslims will join in to make that possible. If there's anything I can help with despite my rather limited means and talents, please do not hesitate to contact me (mushuthalohari[at]gmail[dot]com). May Allah help and guide us in doing what is right.

Oh, and on a side note: I'd like to suggest using some other text colours, as there are quite a lot red-green colourblind people out there. Furthermore, most of the people suffering from this are males, and since this issue needs to get attention from both sexes, I think we must make it as easy as possible and not give anyone any excuses to skip reading what is posted here, yes? (:

Alixianna said...

Bro Yusuf: Thank-you for the idea. With Allah's guidance we can help change things.

Mushuthalohari: Afwan-I did not think of the colour. I wanted to use a blue for the rest though anyway, as it is a healing colour, and I have always used green for hadith and Qu'ran because it was the Prophet's (SAW) favourite colour.

MushuThaLohari said...

Yup, I understand now why you've chosen those colours. It was just a little suggestion :)

Wal salaam.

Alixianna said...

Mushuthalohari: It was a suggestion I need to use: thank-you!

Amina said...

wonderful post sister!

Naeemah said...

MashAllah Alix! Very nice:)

Habayeb said...

Masha'allah! May Allah swt reward u for this effort Ameen. insha'allah id like to help as much as i can.

American Muslima Writer said...

OK glad i wasn't the only one noticing the colors were hard. It's not just the red and green it's the black background. I love the black backgrounds as much as anyoe but for someone stumbling across this blog as I just did and trying to go through all that text It was hard and the only reason I stuck though it was I was really interested to read what more YOU have to say. Now I read it and Love it and think the idiot men you're trying to reach (and idiot women who abuse their husbands it goes both ways) won't bother scrolling through it. :) Yalla now i'm off to e-mail you.
PS I love the first paragraph. Beautiful.

pathwayofdevotion said...

Masha'Allah! The starting paragraph is so touching :'). Keep up the good work sisters!

May Allah (swt) keep you firm upon the truth and may He grant you all a place in Jannat-ul-Firdaws. Ameen.

<3

Anamcara said...

Asalaam alaikom, dear sisters such a wonderful and informative blog. Masaha'allah Sis if you wish to compile a list of sisters and Imams in different countries please let me know I would like to be added to it for Scotland/UK. I work as a marriage counsellor

Muslimah Mia on the path to happyness and freedom said...

Masha allah may Allah swt reward you for your kindness and for the message you are giving away. Insha allah I look forward to hearing insha allah the project to strenghten over time.

If there is anything I could possible do please dont hessitate to contact me on munira_hassan@hotmail.com
Salaam. May allah swt guide you and all of us to the right path insha allah.